《給費城1850班機16C座位的「爹地」》完整中文翻譯--3歲自閉女童認「爹地」　飛機男陪聊天感動上萬網友 @ 心靈漫步~靈性探索~返源歸宗

(照片引用自GO TEAM KATE )

今天看到這則新聞，覺得這位很有愛心的「爹地」先生真的很棒，他給世人做了很好的示範。

上網找到這位媽媽的部落格，看完整個故事，覺得一陣鼻酸，也覺得很溫馨。順手再翻譯成中文，特別在農曆過年前家家戶戶要團圓前po上來給大家一起感動一下、溫暖一下心情。

一般人碰到有精神方面問題的人，通常都不喜歡接近，也不太可能想進入他們的世界去理解和包容他們。

但其實很多人都是有愛心的，只是不太習慣表達出來，有時候是害怕別人的眼光。如果我們都能像這位爹地先生一樣，很自然公開表達自己的愛心，不在意別人異樣的眼光，那麼世上就可以少掉許多社會悲劇了。

【新聞報導】

3歲自閉女童認「爹地」　飛機男陪聊天感動上萬網友

加拿大一名36歲的母親香儂(Shanell Mouland)，日前帶著患有自閉症的3歲女兒(Kate)搭飛機，而凱特則頻喊隔壁男乘客「爹地」(Daddy)，但這名男乘客不但沒有糾正凱特，還親切的陪她聊天，香儂將此事分享到部落格後，也感動數萬名網友。

根據英國《每日郵報》(Daily Mail)報導，這名母親香儂在部落格寫信感謝這名陌生人，表示在女兒稱呼他為「爹地」時，不但沒有糾正，還在2個半小時的飛行中，耐心的陪女兒聊天，讓患有自閉症的女兒忘記飛行的恐懼。

香儂指出，以往搭機時，時常要為了女兒的行為向其他乘客道歉，也常會擔心女兒造成鄰座乘客的困擾，但此次卻是一趟「美好的飛行」。

據了解，香儂在部落格發表的這篇《給費城1850班機16C座位的「爹地」》，文章貼出後許多網友紛紛轉載分享，且目前已超過5萬多人點閱。另也有人指出，看完文章後感動到流淚，並稱這是個偉大的故事。

NOWnews – 2014年1月16日

給費城1850班機16C座位的「爹地」

親愛的「爹地」：

雖然我不知道你的名字，但是Kate上禮拜在飛機上都一直叫你爹地，你很好意都沒有糾正她。事實上，你不但沒有像一般人碰到這種情形可能會退怯，反而很自在讓她把你當作自己的爸爸，貼心地讓她覺得很有安全感。如果她會叫你「爹地」，那表示她覺得你很好。

那天我刻意讓Kate坐在中間的座位，雖然我知道這樣她旁邊就會坐著一個陌生人，我必須很快做好決定該讓她坐哪裡，因為她平時很喜歡盯著反覆開關的窗戶影子看，我想可能讓她坐中間就可以分散她的注意力了。我看到Temple籃球隊的隊員走進機艙，心裡想著不知道會不會是其中一個坐到Kate的旁邊。結果他們都走到後面去了。她有可能會喜歡這樣，她有可能會先觀察，然後再跟我講，但她也有可能會喜歡這些球員。我看到很多歐巴桑走進來，很希望能有其中一個坐到她旁邊，結果都沒有。就在我想說我們旁邊可能是空位時，你就馬上就帶著你的行李和重要文件走過來坐到這個位子。我看到Kate把水倒出來，把你拿在手上的百萬合約或是房契或是不管是什麼的弄得整個都是。你一坐下來，Kate馬上就靠著你的手臂磨蹭，你的外套很柔軟，她喜歡靠著柔軟的東西的感覺。你微笑看著她，她說：「嗨~爹地，她是我媽媽。」然後你就認真當起她的爸爸了。

你有可能會很不舒服地挪到坐位的另一邊，你有可能會不理她，你有可能會對我露出那種我很不喜歡的「微笑」，因為那種微笑的意思是「請管好妳的孩子」。但是你都沒有這樣做。你很專注跟Kate聊天，還問了一些關於她的忍者龜的問題。她雖然沒辦法真的回答上你問的這些問題，但是她對你深深著迷，兩眼一直看著你，也很專注在你問的問題。我在旁邊微笑看著你們，有幾次我刻意分散她的注意力，禮貌性想讓你藉機不再被Kate打擾，但是你還是很自然繼續和Kate聊下去。

Kate：（看到了你的iPAD）這是爹地的地腦(電腦)嗎？

你：這是我的iPAD。你想看看嗎？

Kate：要給我嗎???（我知道她以為你是要送她）

我：Kate,用你的眼睛看就好，那不是你的喔。

Kate：那台很棒！

你：（當你發現Kate也有一台iPAD）我也喜歡你的電腦，它有個很棒的紫色外套。

Kate：爹地想當壞人嗎？（她會想讓你扮忍者龜裡的反派許瑞德表示她很喜歡崇拜你）

你：酷！

這樣的互動持續著，你一直都不厭煩。只有當她在玩Anna和Elsa娃娃時，你才稍微能自己安靜一下。幸好她沒有連玩娃娃都找你一起玩，不過我相信就算她找你玩娃娃，你應該一點都不會介意吧。我猜你應該也有女兒吧。

就在飛機快要降落前，Kate已經受不了了，她尖叫著想要把安全帶解開，她尖叫著要我去打開飛機門，她哭著不斷反覆說「飛機關起來了」。你試著用玩具轉移她的注意力，但是她的情緒已經爆發管不住了。在旁邊的我看到你試著想幫助一個你才剛認識的小小朋友，這讓我覺得很感動！

為了不讓你擔心，跟你說一聲，那天她在走出飛機門的時候就好了，謝謝你讓我們走在你前面。她那時候感覺像是驚慌失措地逃離出飛機，這時候她最需要的是一個大大的擁抱。

所以，謝謝你。謝謝你沒讓我得像平常在外面對陌生人重覆說那些抱歉的話。謝謝你讓Kate玩得很開心，這是她有史以來最成功的一次搭飛機旅程。還有，謝謝你把文件擺到旁邊，和我們的女兒玩忍者龜。

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Dear 'Daddy' in Seat 16C Flight 1850 From Philly

Dear 'Daddy',

I don't know your name but Kate called you 'daddy' for the entire flight last week and you kindly never corrected her. In fact, you didn't even flinch as you could probably tell that she was not confusing you with her own 'daddy' but instead making a judgment regarding your level of 'safety' for her. If she calls you 'daddy' then you better believe she thinks you are alright.

I sat Kate in the middle seat knowing full well that there would be a stranger sitting next to her for the duration of this flight. I had to make a quick decision and based on her obsession with opening and closing the window shade I figured she might be less of a distraction if she sat in the middle. I watched the entire Temple basketball team board the plane and wondered if one of these giants might sit by Kate. They all moved toward the back. She would have liked that, she would have made some observations that I would have had to deal with but she would have liked those players. I watched many Grandmotherly women board and hoped for one to take the seat but they walked on by. For a fleeting moment I thought we might have a free seat beside us and then you walked up and sat down with your briefcase and your important documents and I had a vision of Kate pouring her water all over your multi-million dollar contracts, or house deeds, or whatever it was you held. The moment you sat down, Kate started to rub your arm. Your jacket was soft and she liked the feel of it. You smiled at her and she said: "Hi, Daddy, that's my mom." Then she had you.

You could have shifted uncomfortably in your seat. You could have ignored her. You could have given me that 'smile' that I despise because it means; 'manage your child please.' You did none of that. You engaged Kate in conversation and you asked her questions about her turtles. She could never really answer your questions but she was so enamored by you that she keep eye contact and joint attention on the items you were asking her about. I watched and smiled. I made a few polite offers to distract her, but you would have none of it.

Kate: (Upon noticing you had an IPad) Is dis Daddy's puduter?

You: This is my IPad. Would you like to see it?

Kate:  To me?????? (I know she thought you were offering it to her to keep)

Me: Look with your eyes, Kate. That is not yours.

Kate: Dat's nice!

You: (Upon noticing that Kate had an IPad) I like your computer, too. It has a nice purple case.

Kate: Daddy wanna be a bad guy? (She offered shredder to you and that, my friend, is high praise)

You: Cool.

The interaction went on and on and you never once seemed annoyed. She gave you some moments of peace while she played with her Anna and Elsa dolls. Kind of her to save you from playing barbies, but I bet you wouldn't have minded a bit. I bet you have little girls, too.

Not long before we landed Kate had reached her limit. She screamed to have her seatbelt off, she screamed for me to open the plane door and she cried repeating, "Plane is cwosed (closed)" over and over. You tried to redirect her attention to her toys. She was already too far gone at this point, but the fact that you tried to help your new little friend made me emotional.

In case, you are wondering. She was fine the moment we stepped off the plane. Thank you for letting us go ahead of you. She was feeling overwhelmed and escaping the plane and a big, long hug was all she needed.

So, thank you. Thank you for not making me repeat those awful apologetic sentences that I so often say in public. Thank you for entertaining Kate so much that she had her most successful plane ride, yet. And, thank you for putting your papers away and playing turtles with our girl.